LIFE SKILLS I WANT MY CHILDREN TO MASTER BEFORE THEY LEAVE HOME
Money Management, Budgeting & Paying Bills
Putting money into a savings account
Be able to cook a small repertoire of basic meals (or more if they have a flair for cooking)
Learning to Drive & Navigational Skills
Be able to do basic household tasks – Managing a home
Know how to deal with a car breaking down
Social Skills, Good manners, Empathy with others,
How to get themselves places on public transport such as mastering the subway/tube in big cities
Basic health care, mental health care & self care
Good grooming and personal maintenance
How to ask for what they want be it something small such as in a shop or restaurant or something bigger for their career
Basic Time management & Organisation, Getting up in morning being on time etc
Communicating with others face to face not via just technology
Looking after their own personal environment. Spare key, cleanliness, tidy house and workspace
Setting healthy boundaries with others & taking care with people taking advantage both in friendship, work and romantic relationships
Using protection both in bed and in the sun
The dangers of drugs & smoking
Drinking responsibly and being careful on nights out. Never leave a friend, have money for taxi home, stay with group. My dad always said its not you I don’t trust its other people
Skills to stay safe
Be able to hold conversations, order in restaurants and make bookings both in person and online
Problem solving & decision making skills
Goal setting and knowing how to prioritise
How to prepare for an interview in advance and how to handle an interview on the day
How to study/revise
Be able to hold conversation with people from all walks of life and take an interest in them.
Dressing appropriately for the occasion & having the right equipment for all kinds of events such as dinner parties, summer holiday, a camping trip, a charity ball. Also having the correct equipment and utensils at home for dinner parties, a birthday gathering, parties, Summer Christmas & Easter entertaining etc
Basic 1st Aid
How to do laundry
How to say ‘No’
Basic car maintenance
How to send a professional e mail
Work hard always in everything you do
Treat others how you would like to be treated
via HELLO JUNE 2019
Summer is nearly upon us and I have everything crossed we have the glorious sunshine of last year. Everyone is happier and smiles more when the sun is shining and everywhere just looks better somehow.
FABULOUS THINGS THAT HAPPENED LAST MONTH
- I choreographed a production of ‘Cats’ the musical and we had sell out audiences every night
- A lovely few days away in Northumberland
- I wrote a lot more of my book and I’m loving it. It’s a big ambition of mine to finish it and get it published. Dream big!!!!
- A lovely spa morning and breakfast at 315 Spa in Lepton, Huddersfield with my lovely mum
- A rare date night with my husband at Volaire Tapas Bar in Skelmanthorpe, Huddersfield
LIFESTYLE, LEISURE, PLACES & HOME
Volaire Tapas Bar Skelmanthorpe, Huddersfield
Just 10 minutes up the road from where I live is the small village of Skelmanthorpe which was recently put on the map by the first lady Doctor Who, Jody Whittaker who hails from there and famously called it ‘Shat’ on the Graham Norton show!
Skelmanthorpe (or Shat) is a small but pretty little village on the outskirts of Huddersfield and its main high street now boast a few lovely independent shops and restaurants.
Tony & I had heard some good reviews about Volaire and it always looked very inviting so, on a rare kid free Saturday night we decided to pay it a visit.
We certainly weren’t disappointed, the staff were all very welcoming and attentive.
The small restaurant has a lovely authentic Spanish feel to it & I really did feel transported to Southern Spain.
Our waitress couldn’t have been nicer & explained how their tapas menu worked. There was also a large choice of pastas dishes and pizzas but, being in a Spanish tapas bar we went with the extensive list of delicious sounding tapas dishes.
Wow! Is all I can say, every dish was absolutely delicious and it is some of the best Tapas I’ve had in this country. We went with the recommended 7 dishes between 2 which was more than enough. A huge selection of dips, breads, fish dishes, meat dishes, cheese dishes is available and we went for a good variety in our choices. Everything was so flavoursome and cooked to perfection. We were too full to sample the desert menu but I’m sure it was just as delicious.
Who knew such a fabulous restaurant serving such delicious food was on my doorstep? I can highly highly recommend it if you happen to be in the area. We will definitely be back without a shadow of a doubt.
BEAUTY, HEALTH & STYLE
Fitting back into my summer wardrobe
I’ve been getting quite frustrated with myself lately as, although I’m not over weight I’m a bit bigger than I usually am and I desperately want to lose a few pounds before the summer. All of the clothes in my wardrobe still fit but it all feels a bit snug so I keep wearing the same few outfits that I feel comfortable in. I have a wardrobe full of lovely summer clothes that I’m determined to be wearing again soon as they no way I’m going up a dress size.
I’m on a mission now and I’ve been eating much more healthily and, as always I immediately feel better for it. ‘You are what you eat’ is such a true phrase and I really do feel more energised and my skin is so much better. The summer holidays are 6 or 7 weeks away and I know once I start losing a couple of pounds I’ll be motivated to carry on. Healthy eating coupled with exercising more has begun in earnest so wish me luck!
COCKTAIL OF THE MONTH
This cocktail is a blast from my days dancing on cruise ships when these were a regular on the cocktail menu!!
Ingredients & Method
Mix vodka, peach schnapps, cranberry juice and fresh lime to make this perfect party cocktail and garnish with ice & a lime wedge.
This cocktail can be served in a high ball glass or as a shot.
BOOK OF THE MONTH
Confidence: The Secret – Katie Piper
I’m a big fan of Katie Piper and in awe of her attitude to life. I’ve read all her books and as someone who has quietly struggled with confidence in the past I wanted to read this book. As always with Katie’s books I found it an inspiring read and it shows how true confidence is far more than skin deep. It is warm, funny, touching and down to earth. Well worth a read!
FILM OF THE MONTH
I love anything Disney and I’ve been really looking forward to this re make of Aladdin. I was concerned nothing could ever live up to Robin Williams as the Genie & Will Smith was taking on a huge task with this. He most certainly didn’t disappoint and is just wonderful in the role.
But Wow! The films cinematography is simply stunning in every way and my mum, Isabelle, Max and myself all loved every minute of it. It’s aesthetically beautiful and perfectly cast all round. Brilliantly directed by Guy Ritchie with a very clever screenplay makes this a wonderful film in every way. I was looking forward to it but it completely exceeded all my expectations.
THIS MONTH I’M LOVING
Walking Dora in nicer weather & when it’s lighter in the evening!
THIS MONTH I’M NOT LOVING
Seeing a close family friend suffer 😞
THIS MONTHS FAVOURITES
- The addition of Retinol to my skin care routine
- My new Michael Kors handbag
- Jo Malone Peony & Blush suede luxury candle
- Neom Real luxury bath & shower drops
- TIGI Catwalk dry shampoo
- Gentleman Jack on with the fabulous Suranne Jones plus some of it was filmed in my home town and neighbouring ares which was lovely to see
THOUGHT FOR THE MONTH
MY PASSION – THE OCEAN
Today is my last day in beautiful Northumberland after my family & I have spent a much needed few days away to escape the daily grind and re charge our batteries. I’ve woken up earlier than everyone else and I’m sitting looking out of our hotel room window at the ocean.
There’s nothing I love more when I’m away than waking up to an ocean view, I find it peaceful, soothing and it is definitely good for the soul.
Having spent many years working as a dancer on Cruise Ships, I loved meeting so many interesting people from all walks of life, however being with people 24/7 could be tiring at times and my escape was to go to the very back of the ship on top deck where it was quiet, sit with a coffee and read my book whilst looking out at the stunning Caribbean Sea. It was my own private time, my escape, my haven and I loved those moments. The soothing sight of the waves rippling as the propellers cut through them, the sun glistening on the stunning turquoise water and me lost in a good book with a gentle breeze on my face. It cleared my mind and was good for my soul.
I’ve watched stunning sun rises & sun sets over the ocean which is a sight to behold and I’ve also seen that beautiful turquoise sea turn into a black onyx when you look out at night and see the moonlight glistening across the water.
Today as I look out its a little grey and misty and certainly not the turquoise delight of the Caribbean but it still soothes me somehow. My family are all still fast asleep and there’s something quite special about being awake before everyone else and having these few moments to gaze out and see the seagulls and a ship in the distance as the sun starts to peep through the clouds.
Sitting looking out at the ocean will always be my happy place, I now feel calm, rested and ready to take on the day xx
IT’S GOOD TO BE KIND
In the wake of the tragic terror attacks we’ve had over the last few years, one of the things that stands out for me the most is seeing the kindness people of the general public show one another in the face of adversity.
Being kind and considerate is about taking a little time to think how others might be feeling, showing empathy to their situation and how your behaviour towards them can make a positive impact.
To put kindness in to practice you must consider a few points
💗Anticipate what others might need
💗Be considerate of others in public
💗Listen to friends problems without relating everything to yourself, no one likes to hear ‘yes when that happened to me’ when they’re pouring their heart out
💗Don’t worry about what to say to someone who is experiencing hard times, never avoid them because you don’t know what to say. Real friends don’t always need words they just need to know you’re there for them
💗Don’t monopolise every day conversations, ask others how they’re feeling and how their families are too etc
💗Spare a little thought of people who are lonely or unwell
💗Small thoughtful gifts or cards can mean the world to someone from time to time.
💗Likewise taking a cooked meal or a home baked cake for someone who has been unwell or just had a baby is always greatly appreciated and shows you’ve thought about them.
💗Be punctual and don’t cancel on people unless it is extremely urgent. Being respectful of other peoples time is imperative, one of the most inconsiderate things you can do is act like your time is more important than theirs. Likewise, cancelling on someone at the last minute shows no thought for them and what they have had to organise to meet up with you. Good friends never let other friends down.
Two quotes come to mind, the first from the Disney film ‘Cinderella’
‘Have Courage & Be Kind’
The second was The Dalai Lama, when asked for his philosophy of life, he just said simply ‘Be kind whenever possible, it is always possible’