HOW TO BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF
(TO LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE)
IGNORE THE NEGATIVE VOICES
Who is that annoying person in your head that causes self doubt and insecurities? My promise to myself this year was ‘new year new me’ and to find my confidence again and I’ve really stuck to it. A couple of low points in my job over the last couple of years had knocked my confidence a little but at the end of last year I took a step back and reminded myself of all the many things I’ve achieved and gave myself the hard word. I’ve started believing in myself again and I’ve had to get tough with myself but now the voice in my head is saying ‘yes you can’ instead of ‘no you can’t’! The positive thinking has a knock on effect and so far 2019 is shaping up very well.
SAY NO WHEN ITS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU
This is something that’s taken me a long time but this last year or so I’ve tried to stop saying yes and being a people pleaser and saying no to things that are not right for me. When I’m happier it is better and healthier for my family and that’s what comes first.
SAY YES WHEN YOU WANT TO PUSH YOURSELF OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
However, last year I was proud of myself for pushing myself out of my comfort zone and accepting an adjudicating job at a dance festival. It’s something I’ve been asked to do before and didn’t have the confidence to do but then seeing other people do it who didn’t have half the experience and knowledge I do made me push myself and do it. It went really well and I got so many compliments.
EMBRACE YOUR IMPERFECTIONS
None of us are perfect and growing up we all have things we dislike about ourselves and our appearance. As you get older it’s important to embrace and understand that it’s these imperfections and personality quirks are what makes you you
ACCEPT THAT SOMETIMES WE HAVE BAD DAYS
Everyone, no matter how charmed their life may seem, has bad days from time to time and that’s fine! No ones life is all good or all bad and we have to accept what each day throws at us. However, if you find that the bad days are far out weighing the good then it could be time to address the situation and take action.
ACCEPT THAT SOMETIMES WE FAIL BUT COME BACK FIGHTING HARDER, BIGGER AND BETTER
‘There are no mistakes just lessons’ so the saying goes and this is such a true statement. When things go wrong it helps us learn to cope with tricky or bad situations and use it to learn from and make us stronger.
APPRECIATE THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY
We all go through life at break neck speed these days that sometimes it’s easy to forget all the small things that are so important. Every now and again we must all stop for a while to appreciate all the things we have in our life’s that we enjoy and make us happy. A bit of self care and reflection is vital to keep us functioning well.
LIVE IN THE MOMENT
‘Life is what’s happening whilst we’re busy planning the future’ How true is this? I for one am very guilty of always wanting to plan the next trip or make plans to further my career. Whilst these are important for us to keep growing and progressing we also need to remember to live the life we’re living here and now too. No one knows what’s around the corner so we must try to live for the now and enjoy life to its fullest.
ASPIRE TO HAPPINESS NOT POSSESSIONS
When we buy something new it gives us a buzz that lasts for a short time but the more we have the more we want to keep getting that buzz. That feels great at the time but it’s not true happiness. Happiness is being with family and friends and those we love to be around and spending quality time with. For me nothing can beat a Sunday spent at home with all my family and just enjoying each other’s company and letting them know how loved they are. These are the memories we’ll look back on with fondness. You won’t remember that new top or new coffee table but you’ll remember the precious memories you’ve created with family and friends.
IF YOU CAN BE ANYTHING AT ALL BE KIND!
The world needs so much more kindness these days. When we switch on the news it’s always bad, social media can create jealousies & animosity between people and loyalty seems to have become a dirty word sadly! We all need to take a step back now and again and think how much it can mean to someone to show them some compassion and kindness and how much it would mean if someone did the same to you.