MIND OVER MATTER, BUILDING CONFIDENCE & SELF BELIEF

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MIND OVER MATTER, BUILDING CONFIDENCE & SELF BELIEF

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As a dancer and a performer since the age of 2 it obviously takes a certain amount of confidence to get on a stage and perform in front of hundreds of people. 

I was confident as a performer though as I had a natural talent and always did extremely well in competitions and exams so I knew I was ok. As a person off stage I wasn’t ever shy but I wasn’t oozing with confidence either. At school I could talk to people easily and had lots of friends but I used to get cross with myself for not putting my hand up when I knew the answer or putting myself forward for things. Being a perfectionist with lots of pride there was no way I would risk the chance of getting it wrong in front of everyone. I was used to…

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MIND OVER MATTER, BUILDING CONFIDENCE & SELF BELIEF

MIND OVER MATTER, BUILDING CONFIDENCE & SELF BELIEF

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As a dancer and a performer since the age of 2 it obviously takes a certain amount of confidence to get on a stage and perform in front of hundreds of people. 

I was confident as a performer though as I had a natural talent and always did extremely well in competitions and exams so I knew I was ok. As a person off stage I wasn’t ever shy but I wasn’t oozing with confidence either. At school I could talk to people easily and had lots of friends but I used to get cross with myself for not putting my hand up when I knew the answer or putting myself forward for things. Being a perfectionist with lots of pride there was no way I would risk the chance of getting it wrong in front of everyone. I was used to appearing confident on stage so I could make people believe I was confident off stage too but deep down I often lacked belief in myself. IMG_1539

During my teens I was popular with boys so I was quite confident talking to guys & on dates and my confidence was boosted when guys found me attractive and wanted to be with me. Then in my 20’s I achieved my dream of being a professional dancer and during that time I worked on cruise ships, in shows, on tv etc and I would say I had quite a lot of self belief. 

Coming to live back at home in my late 20’s and early 30’s my confidence seemed to drop quite a lot. I had no reason for it to. I’d met Tony and we got married, I had my two beautiful children and I’d opened my own successful theatre school business. This is probably why my confidence dropped slightly as, anyone in business will tell you that you can have hundreds of fabulous customers but the one awkward annoying one is the one that bothers you and you take things to heart. I’m good at my job, I know that and I’ve had a great deal of success in my school but the one thing I’m not is a thick skinned, hard nosed business woman. I’d love to be a lot tougher but I’m not & I take things to heart. My mum also used to get cross with me for not putting myself forward for things I’d be good at when other people with far less qualifications and ability would jump at, completely full of IMG_1533themselves and believing in their self worth. 

At the end of my 30’s I’d had a bad incident with a parent of a pupil in my school and I had to ask them to leave. They had been such a toxic presence in my life for so long I felt like a weight had been lifted. We’d also had a few problems buying a new house & selling ours with 2 sales falling through which also put a bit of a strain on things at home. 

My 40th was looming and in the weeks leading up to it I had a kind of epiphany. I decided I was not going to go into my 40’s lacking belief in myself and I wanted to be fabulous at 40. I had lots of celebrations planned including a party, a cruise and a trip to Venice. I wasn’t over weight by any means but I ate healthily and got back to the gym so I lost a bit of weight & felt great about myself. I also mentally talked to myself to believe in myself and tell myself I could do anything that came my way. Before I knew it we moved house, lots more successes occurred in my business and I said yes to two things that were completely out of my comfort zone but deep down I knew I was more than able to do. IMG_1462

Don’t get me wrong, we all have days and weeks of insecurities when things don’t go quite to plan but, my 40’s are definitely proving to be a great decade, working hard, being successful, having fun, enjoying new experiences, being with my fabulous family & loving life.

I know I’m very blessed, some people are not as lucky as me and have a lot of difficult things to deal with on a day to day basis. But, we only get one life so I for one am going to spend the rest of it making the most of every minute & facing every opportunity that comes my way with the voice in my head giving me confidence and self belief. 

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40 THINGS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW, HAVE AND HAVE DONE IN HER 40’S

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40 THINGS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW, HAVE AND HAVE DONE IN HER 40’S

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Are there some things that every woman “should” experience by age 40?

I think by age 40 you should certainly have some ‘life experience’ and some fabulous memories to look back on. The following list is some of the things I think a woman in her 40’s should know, should have and should have done in her life so far!

  1. Should have kissed someone so intensely and powerfully that it will forever define ‘passion’ for her.IMG_1137
  2. Learned to make at least one difficult recipe and to make it well.
  3. Have awareness of any genetic illnesses that might manifest so that you choose the appropriate lifestyle to prevent that from happening.
  4. Learned to have a confrontation with a person she is close to in a calm and collected manner.
  5. Been the role model and guide for a…

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40 THINGS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW, HAVE AND HAVE DONE IN HER 40’S

40 THINGS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW, HAVE AND HAVE DONE IN HER 40’S

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Are there some things that every woman “should” experience by age 40?

I think by age 40 you should certainly have some ‘life experience’ and some fabulous memories to look back on. The following list is some of the things I think a woman in her 40’s should know, should have and should have done in her life so far!

  1. Should have kissed someone so intensely and powerfully that it will forever define ‘passion’ for her.IMG_1137
  2. Learned to make at least one difficult recipe and to make it well.
  3. Have awareness of any genetic illnesses that might manifest so that you choose the appropriate lifestyle to prevent that from happening.
  4. Learned to have a confrontation with a person she is close to in a calm and collected manner.
  5. Been the role model and guide for a kid she is not the mother of.
  6. Have a ‘safe space’ for herself where she can relax in peace and do any thinking that needs to be done.
  7. Made love to someone who was aware of every pleasure zone in her body.
  8. Have one good friend who can always help her find laughter no matter how tough things are.
  9. And a friend who is always there when she needs a good cry.
  10. Bought a costly present for herself because she knows she’s worth it.
  11. Had a goal that was so out of the world that she feared it.IMG_1460
  12. Had a relationship she can tell stories about over the years.
  13. The knowledge that everyone will get older and that living on requires money.
  14. Had an experience that was very painful but has made her stronger.
  15. Own a beautiful dress that she loves enough to wear just about anywhere.
  16. Have a habit that she does for herself and only for herself.
  17. Have an understanding that her parents were not perfect but that they did everything they could possibly do.
  18. Have something that makes her cringe every time she thinks about it but increases her appreciation for the memories that make her happy.
  19. Have recorded her emotions and ideas in a Diary.IMG_1457
  20. Have one friend who she can always turn to when she is in trouble.
  21. Have an object that always makes her sentimental.
  22. Have an awareness of what she wants and doesn’t want from a partner.
  23. Have a secret that she has never told anyone which always brings her pleasure when she remembers it.
  24. Know a woman more advanced in years as her role model.
  25. Follow a spiritual path where she learns wisdom and is nurtured.
  26. Love a song that seems to be about her.
  27. One that she always has to sing out loud.
  28. Have a bucket list. It is alright if she hasn’t ticked off everything yet.
  29. Have a vision that motivates her to get up and work even on the worst day.
  30. Understand herself well enough to use what she knows about herself.
  31. Have an accomplishment that no person can make you feel bad about.
  32. Own a collection of photos that always brings her happiness.IMG_1454
  33. Have experienced the loss of a person whom she cherished so much that there will always be an empty space inside her.
  34. Have learned to say ‘no’.
  35. Have an acceptance of herself just the way she is.
  36. Have an activity that she can do for ages without getting bored.
  37. Have a few white hairs or some other imperfection in her body.
  38. Have had a lover who made her adventurous for as long as they were together.
  39. Have some savings for times of trouble.
  40. Have an understanding that 40 is the prime of life and there is so much left for her to do. IMG_1458

“The French are true romantics. They feel the only difference between a man of forty and one of seventy is thirty years of experience.” – Maurice Chevalier

20 THINGS MUMS AND SONS SHOULD DO TOGETHER

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20 THINGS MUMS AND SONS SHOULD DO TOGETHER

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Me & My Max

As your little boy gets older it’s not always ‘cool’ to be out and about with your mum. However, a mum and son relationships is a very special one and to keep your bond strong it’s important to spend one on one time together. Max is no different to any other 11 year old boy, he loves me a lot but sometimes I’m the most embarrassing mum ever. However, when it comes to lovely treats, deep down he loves having Mum and Max time x 

CINEMA & PIZZA DATE

IMG_1380You might not enjoy your sons choice of film as much as your daughters but there’s still nothing better than a cinema date with your boy, popcorn and pick ‘n’ mix preceded or followed by a meal at a pizza restaurant to have a good catch up. Boys can…

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